And of course the work is never done in one short period, but the annual cycle of accounting and repair is as true as a birthday: you take stock and celebrate what you can heal, and move on. Our Jewish psychology is healthful: when it comes to the work of seeking and giving forgiveness, we needn't get it all done at once, and we get to take another crack at it each year we live. As the Ethics of the Fathers, or Pirkei Avot, states (my paraphrase): You are not required to complete the task, but you are not to abandon it.
And just after all that deep work is over, we finish the month of Tishrei with Sukkot and Simchat Torah, two periods of celebration: of home, food, and our Book of Books, all the while in awareness of our utter dependence on the Source of Life. Might as well have some wine and dance.
A very attractive book that helps an individual prepare for the high holidays is Rabbi Simon Jacobson's Sixty Days: A Spiritual Guide to the High Holidays. Not a stuffy book, it's laid out flat like a cookbook, spiral-bound, with sidebars and room for personal jottings, which the reader will be inspired to make as she or he mulls over bits of history, law and customs, little spiritual exercizes, and reflections on the process of inner change. The first chapter, The Energy of Time, sets a nice tone for how we can individually immerse ourselves in the months of Elul and Tishrei for 60 days of inner awe and transformation. Jacobson notes that only change breeds more change, and in preparing for what I hope will be an interior change, I have faith in my ability to use this book to create some change, instead of only reacting to change that Life imposes on me. By the time of the HHD, I expect myself to have grown by the work I do now. Although I won't glow, and will still be me with all my stuff, I hope it'll show in small ways that let me be more truly who G-d had in mind.
If you like the book or have some ideas to share about your HHD inner work, let us all know in this space.
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